Are you a health coach that thinks you have to “look” like a health coach or be in perfect health in order to help others?
Are you maybe pushing clients away by trying to be perfect?
I made just about every single mistake that health coaches are making today. And one of them is expecting yourself to look a specific way, present yourself a specific way or to have overcome every health problem there is in order to help others.
What people are looking for today in a health coach who will:
- Help them and the overwhelm
- Help them to take action when they feel like they’ve done everything they can to get well and they’re still stuck
- Be their cheerleader and their support system
- Hold them accountable for the change they’re trying to make
They don’t want somebody that looks perfect. And it’s like you can be just like me. And this is how you get there.What I would like to encourage you to do as a health coach, whether you’re someone who is still dealing with a chronic condition, or maybe a symptom that you can’t seem to uncover, is to drop those ideas and those thoughts right out of your mind.
Because what’s going to happen here is it’s going to open the door to all the people that are looking for you right now. I’ve seen this happen over and over again.
I used to be a personal trainer. When I was personal training, I was in really good shape, and I was really fit. But underneath that exterior, the way that I looked, I was dealing with digestive issues from the stress of trying to keep up with the schedule that wasn’t working for me. I was not able to sit down at the kitchen table with my family the majority of the week because I was busy working when I shouldn’t have been working.
And it was all because I wanted to present myself as someone that was confident in what she was doing to help other people. I was passionate about getting my, my, my services out there so that other people could start to feel better.
And in the meantime, underneath it all, I was trying to get control of a thyroid problem. I was trying to find out why my digestion was struggling. I was under more stress than you can possibly imagine, trying to reach a perfection state so other people would hire me.
So what I did was I decided to drop that and open up my story and share where I was and share where I’d been. And that just attracted more and more people to me. I was told many, many times: “Oh, my gosh, it’s such a relief to hear that you have a thyroid problem”, or “it’s such a relief to hear that you’ve been through these digestive digestive problems”. It’s a relief to them, because what happens is they’re trying to find a connection.
When people are trying to find a connection, they’re looking for someone that understands where they’ve been and is able to support them to the goal that they’re trying to achieve.
So when we put on this perfectionistic outfit or present ourselves as someone who has it all together all the time And all we do is eat salads and drink green smoothies and we go to bed at eight o’clock at night. That’s really actually kind of overwhelming for people because they see us as unattainable like, “I’ll never be able to do that” or “I’ll never be able to eat like you”.
I heard that so many times when I was when I was in this, the process of building my business. But what I ended up telling them was “Listen, that’s only at certain times, I still crave a you know, a gluten free protein bar. I still want to make a batch of paleo muffins and eat more than two or three of them.”
That really gives them just a sigh of relief.
You can see it on their face when they know you’re not perfect. And you don’t expect them to be either. And you know what they’re going through. That means so much more than presenting ourselves you know, with no problems at all. Or a perfect weight, eating and drinking perfectly all the time.
So let’s drop this perfectionist stick idea of what we think people want to see of us. And let’s present our authentic selves – the ones who really want to get to the bottom of the problems for people, even though we might be dealing with our own.
And here’s the other thing that’s really cool is when somebody finds a health coach that’s in the process of working through their own issues, they know that you’re still continuing to learn, and you’re investigating, and you’re in the process of getting even more information.
And that’s the person they want to learn from, that’s the person they want to hire. Not someone who says, oh, I’ve been there, done that. And now I’m all good and we’re going to get you there too. But you have to do all this hard stuff to be able to look like this.
Have you ever felt like a fraud? Because you’re not where you think you should be or you don’t look like you think you should just because you’re a health coach, post in the comments below. I’d love to read what you’re doing!